How To Take Control Of Any Conversation

An article extract from Huffington Post, written and posted by Ashley Hamilton, published on the Huffington Post website on March 16th, 2016, 11.14AM.

Posting it here as a reminder to myself, that I need to have the power lead in every conversation. Setting this up as a motivation to me too, which I am encouraged to constantly remind myself positively to start up my day. Hence, this publication posting.

"Your opening line makes all the difference."

The next time you walk into an important meeting, think carefully about your first few words. According to positive psychology researcher and ayuthor Michelle Gielan, the initial words we speak have a huge impact on ho well -- or not so well -- the conversation will go.

To set the right tone from the start, Gielan, a former national news broadcaster; says to use what she calls the power lead. "The power lead is where we start off conversations, emails, meetings, phone calls with something positive and meaningful," Gielan says in the above #OWNSHOW video. "It doesn't have to be something big."

For example, if someone asks how she's doing, makes sure to take this mundane question and craft a strong response. "I'm great! I had breakfast with my son this morning and he was being so cute," she says.

It may sound simple, but Gielan says a positive comment will yield much better results than a ho-hum response. "It offers them a window into our world, and -- this is the most important reason -- it encourages people to reciprocate," she says. "We match the mood. If someone comes at you with something positive, usually you'll follow through with something positive as well."

By using the power lead, Gielan says you can take control of the conversation and even change its trajectory.
" As a researcher; if I know the first few words of a conversation, I can predict with a high degree of accuracy the outcome of that conversation," she says.

Am I Wrong? AM I?

Am I wrong to assume on things that didn't happen?
Am I wrong to think what others thought about me?
Am I wrong to answer you without thinking nor hesitation?
Am I wrong to not talk to you?
Am I wrong to showcase my sulky face?
Am I wrong to showcase my tiredness to the people out there?
Am I wrong not to hide my smile?
Am I wrong to assume opinions?
Am I wrong to behave unexpectedly upon you?
Am I wrong to keep silent?
Am I wrong to forget about you?
Am I wrong to bother about you?
Am I wrong to think that I've left out from a group?
Am I wrong to think that I'm no invited?
Am I wrong to be too nice to people?
Am I wrong to be mad at people?
Am I wrong to not message you first?
Am I wrong to not search for you?
Am I wrong to not look out for you?
Am I wrong to support you?
Am I wrong to talk back to you?
Am I wrong to care for you?
Am I wrong to considerate for you?
Am I wrong to introduce you to the others?
Am I wrong to lend a hand to those in need?
Am I wrong to get betrayed?
Am I wrong to get acknowledged?
Am I wrong to get underestimated?
Am I wrong to ignore you?
Am I wrong to cancel you out from my life?
Am I wrong to experience all these bullshit?
Am I wrong to deal with life in different ways?
Am I wrong to face life with bravery?
Am I wrong to fulfill my life with experiences?
Am I wrong to fill up my routines with adventurous trips?
Am I wrong to travel around the world?
Am I wrong to find my inner peace?
Am I wrong to laugh at myself?
Am I wrong to be selfish?
Am I wrong to be ignorance?
Am I wrong to be open-minded?
Am I wrong to ponder upon life?
Am I wrong to concern for the people?
Am I wrong for being just?
Am I wrong for being competitive?
Am I wrong to be knowledgeable?
Am I wrong to be selective?
Am I wrong to be surrounded with nerds?
Am I wrong to be clever?
Am I wrong to mix with cool kids?
Am I wrong to be snobbish?
Am I wrong to be honest?
Am I wrong to be humorous?
Am I wrong to laugh at everything?
Am I wrong to shout?
Am I wrong to scream my lungs out?
Am I wrong to run away from problems?
Am I wrong to face my fear?
Am I wrong to escape the negatives?
Am I wrong to support and adapt the disadvantages?
Am I wrong to be alone?
Am I wrong to be lonesome?
Am I wrong to judge?
Am I wrong to opt for negative feedback or judgment?
Am I wrong to accept the positive feedback or judgment?
Am I wrong to not think about others' judgment about me?
Am I wrong to pretend everything is okay?
Am I wrong to overthink?
Am I wrong to be childish?
Am I wrong to be mature?
Am I wrong to be a human being?
Am I wrong to regret to not be an animal?
Am I wrong to love myself?
Am I wrong to hate myself?
Am I wrong to love life?
Am I wrong to hate life?
Am I wrong to fulfill my life to the fullest?
Am I wrong to empty my life to the emptiest?

Tell me, AM I?

When to ADJUST, When to CONFRONT.It's all about your strength.

Put a frog in a vessel of water and start heating the water.

As the temperature of the water rises, the frog is able to adjust its body temperature accordingly.

The frog keeps on adjusting with an increase in temperature...

Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog is not able to adjust anymore...

At that point, the frog decides to jump out...

The frog tries to jump but is unable to do so, because it has lost all its strength in adjusting with the rising water temperature...

Very soon the frog dies.

What killed the frog?

Many of us would say the boiling water...

But the truth has what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when it had to jump out.

We all need to adjust with people and situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust and when we need to confront/face.

There are times when we need to face the situation and take the appropriate action...

If we allow people to exploit us physically, mentally, emotionally or financially, they will continue to do so...

We have to decide when to jump.

Let us jump while we still have the strength.

Think on It !!